Having raised two children as a single father, and being a solicitor and family mediator as well as a psychologist, Dr. Bob has a unique insight into the issues of separation and how they affect children. He works with parents who are considering separation, going through separation, or are dealing with post-separation co-parenting.
Dr. Bob knows how painful the post-separation process can be, and he's written a personal letter to parents going through this difficult process to express his feelings.
To read Dr. Bob's letter click here.
The end of a relationship can be emotionally devastating, regardless of which partner initiated it. The emotional trauma is multiplied when there are children involved. Our court system creates additional trauma and conflict for parents, when what they need is support and an opportunity to heal. Dr. Bob works with parents post separation to deal with their own feelings about the end of the relationship and to help them feel optimistic and unafraid about the future.
Parents are able to write their own parenting plan. Once both parties have agreed on the terms and sign the document it becomes an official parenting plan.
A parenting plan is a legally relevant document, but it is NOT a court order and cannot be enforced by a court or by the police. It is legally relevant in two ways: If there is a subsequent court case, the parenting plan can be submitted as evidence. Also, a new parenting plan supersedes an existing court order.
Although no specific format is required for a parenting plan, parents are welcome to use the template used by The Parenting Centre which is available here.
Dr. Bob is available to assist parents, individually or together in developing a parenting plan.
All parenting plan consults at The Parenting Centre are based on an hourly rate of $225.00.
If parents want a court order but want to avoid the court process and conflict, they can make an application to the court to adopt their parenting plan as parenting orders. If the court agrees, their parenting plan will become a “Consent Order”; where the court is issuing an order but there is no dispute. A consent order has the exact same authority as any parenting order.
Although it is sometimes helpful to have a solicitor file the application for consent orders, it is not required, and may not be necessary if the parents don’t mind doing the required paperwork themselves.
Unfortunately, separated parents often do not agree on what is in the best interests of their child or children. Parents who are unable to reach an agreement on a parenting plan can seek mediation through organizations such as Family Relationship Centres and Relationship Australia. Alternatively they can seek “Advisory Mediation” at The Parenting Centre.
Traditionally, mediators were not permitted to share their opinions, and only worked to facilitate an agreement between the parties. Under Australian law, mediators with qualifications in other professional areas may provide “Advisory Mediation” with the consent of both parties. For example, if parents were working on a financial agreement and their mediator was a qualified accountant, the accountant could provide financial or tax advice to guide the agreement, if the parents consented.
As a clinical psychologist, Dr. Bob is able to offer the benefit of an impartial professional with over 30 years of experience, to advise parents of what may or may not be in their children's best interests. This advice has no authority; parents are free to ignore it. Typically parents genuinely want what is best for their children, and realize they are not sufficiently detached to make that assessment by themselves. For that reason, Advisory Mediation can offer a great deal more than traditional mediation.
Mediation at The Parenting Centre is based on an hourly rate of $225.00.
Unfortunately, sometimes parents are unable to agree on a parenting plan even after mediation. Historically, if mediation failed the only alternative left for parents was to go to court. Now, The Parenting Centre offers an alternative to family law litigation.
Complete Separation Solutions Offers:
- A better outcome for children
- A better outcome for parents
- A significantly less expensive process
- A significantly faster process
- A positive and harmonious process
How does it work?
1. Parents meet with Dr. Bob Jacobs to present their individual visions of the best parenting plan for their child(ren).
2. Dr. Jacobs contacts individuals who either parent feels can provide relevant information.
3. Dr. Jacobs conducts home visits in each home, which includes interviews and significant interaction with the child(ren).
4. Based on all of the above information, Dr. Jacobs prepares a parenting plan in the best interests of the child(ren).
5. The Parenting Centre compensates an independent solicitor (parents may appoint a solicitor of their choice) to make an application to the court for consent orders reflecting the terms of the parenting plan.
What Are the Advantages?
- Children are protected from additional conflict caused by the court process. Research shows that conflict is more detrimental to children than the separation itself.
- The parenting plan is developed by a Clinincal Psychologist who specialises in children and family matters, instead of being developed by the court.
- Parents can begin the healing process immediately instead of having to attack each other in adversarial court proceedings.
- Significant financial savings.
- A fast and positive process, compared to the lengthy and emotionally devastating court process.
What Are the Disadvantages?
Complete Separation Solutions is NOT for parents who want to attack and hurt each other, or use children to "get back" at the other parent.
How Much Does it Cost?
The TOTAL cost is $10,000. Cases that go through the Family Law Court can cost EACH parent $80,000-$100,000 or more.
How Long Does the Process Take?
The entire process is usually completed in less then 2 months. A fully litigated case with the Family Law Court can take 18 months or longer.
What Do I Get at the End?
A fully enforceable Court Order that incorporates the terms of the agreed parenting plan.
Who is Dr. Bob Jacobs?
Dr. Bob Jacobs is a Registered Clinical Psychologist with over 30 years experience. He is also a Family Law Solicitor and a registered Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner (FDRP). However, COMPLETE SEPARATION SOLUTIONS is NOT a legal service, but rather an innovative process where parents choose to have their parenting plan developed by a social science professional.
Having watched the devastating impact of separation on children, Dr. Jacobs has focused his career on helping separating parents reduce conflict and develop positive, sustainable co-parenting arrangements. Through the Family Law Pathways, an initiative of Australia's Attorney General, Dr. Jacobs has been active in efforts to improve the family court system.
What Else Should I be Aware Of?
You need to be aware that Complete Separation Solutions is not offering health services or legal services.
Please also be aware that either party is free to obtain independent legal counsel anytime during the process.
How Do I Contact You for More Information?
Please phone The Parenting Centre on 07 5435 2504 or email email@example.com for more information about Complete Separation Solutions.
Click here for a printable brochure on Complete Seperation Solutions.
Dr. Bob and other professionals on the Sunshine Coast have been extremely concerned about the process by which family reports are prepared and provided to the court. Often, family report writers only spent an hour or so with each parent, and a few minutes observing the children, and then based on that minimal information, make a recommendation that is afforded significant weight by the court. Sometimes the family report writer is not trained in child development or child psychology, and may not appropriately interpret his or her observations.
In 2009 and 2010, Dr. Bob was involved with Lifeline in developing the “Gold Standards” for family report writers. Family reports written using the “Gold Standards” involve extensive contact with the family, including meeting with the children in their own homes where they are comfortable, and developing a rapport with the children. The objective is to try to understand their emotional, psychological and developmental needs. This process involves more work for the family report writer.
Dr. Bob believes if we truly care about protecting and supporting children in this process, the least we can do is take the time and effort to really get to know the family (and others who know the family well).